For Young Carers & Young Adult Carers

Video of the Week: BBC One – Panorama | Fighting for my Child |

This documentary showcases the stories of three families, who care for their children. There are just over a million children with some form of disability in the UK. (DWP Family Resources Survey, 2016/17).

“When he was first born, they gave him 24 hours.”- Philippa

Philippa Meredith is a carer to her son Logan, and she lives with her husband and 3 older children. Logan has Cerebral Palsy and extensive brain damage and is visually impaired but is able to see the colours blue and red and enjoys bright colours.

“I remember the Specialist coming in and she said that, there’s so much wrong with Charley, you would not even know if he was a boy or a girl.” – Jordan

Jordan Gadbury cares for her son Charley, who has a rare gene disorder and is missing part of his brain. He can’t walk or talk but seems to respond to his family. Jordan’s mother, Annette left her job to become Charley’s qualified carer. The dilemma that faces many families, is when the funding ends, Charley’s Grandmother will need to find another job. In the documentary, Jordan shows Professor Jane COAD, how many hospital appointment letters she has for Charley. They will have to see 25 consultants in a month.

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Claire Bennett has Multiple Scerloisis, she cares for her daughter Amelia who is 4 months old, was born prematurely at 24 weeks and has Hemangiomah on her head. She also had excess fluid in her brain – a shunt has be fitted to drain, halting the build up of pressure. Her son Amari, 2 1/2 years old and he’s visually impaired, has cerebral parley and some brain damage.

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“Short breaks and respites are the back bone for many of these families, it gives them a night off or few hours off. Even getting a baby sitter is really, really hard for them, so having a respite, having a break is vital to many of them.” – Professor Jane COAD (Coventry University and Coventry & Nottingham Hospitals)



In the aftermath of the Alfie Evans and Charlie Gard cases, Panorama meets three extraordinary families who spend their lives caring for children with serious disabilities. The number of school-aged children with complex needs has doubled since 2004, but many families now struggle to secure the help their children need in the face of limited resources.

Families let cameras into their homes to see what it takes to give their children the care they need on a daily basis – sometimes it’s a fight to simply keep them alive. Are we willing to do what it takes to give these children a decent quality of life? – BBC ONE


Carers week 2018

Happy Carers Week! Great blog post Matthew.

A Caring Mind


Hello everyone welcome to your new blog for Matthew McKenzie a carer from South London. Now as of this blog it is carers week 2018. Carers Week is an annual campaign to raise awareness of caring, highlight the challenges carers face and recognise the contribution they make to families and communities throughout the UK.

For this year carers 2018 looks to address caring in the community as where carers can come connected to the community and also keeping carers healthy. It is quite common to know that carers can also be isolated and caring for someone that they have known for most of their lives or at least someone special.

We all want a caring Society so that’s why it is so important and continue to address that carers can be connected to the community.


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Carers Thames Walk | Saturday 6th May 2017 | Carers Lewisham |

Carers Thames Walk is back this year! As supporters of Carers Lewisham, who support 6,000 carers around the borough. We would highly appreciate it, if you could participate in the walk and raise funds and awareness for them. For Adult Walkers : 

Pre-registered online before 1st May: £12.00

Register on the day: £15:00. Includes goody bag and t shirt.

Under 16 :

Pre-registered online before 1st May:  £6.00

Register on the day:   £7.50 includes goody bag.

Please register as soon as possible, and for donations please go to Carers Lewisham’s Virgin Money Giving Page.  You can contact Carers Lewisham by calling on 020 8699 8686 or e-mail info@carerslewisham.org.uk. If you would like to sponsor your local carers centre or just register for the walk,  please read the information below. Good luck and THANK YOU in advance! xo







The work of millions of Carers will be highlighted during a circular walk along the River Thames and past some of London’s iconic bridges on 6th May 2017. The walk will start from the Education Centre, Southwark Cathedral at 10 am. This event has been organised by ‘Carers Thames Walk’ to raise the profile and celebrate the work of not only some three quarter of a million Carers who live in London but almost 7 million Carers in the UK.

Carers are hidden heroes who without any payment provide care to their loved ones, in many cases 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They could be a husband, wife, father, mother, brother, sister, son, daughter, other relative or even a friend or neighbour. Carers are on occasions highly stressed and desperately in need of better support. Local Carers Centres provide that support.

A study by Carers UK and the University of Sheffield shows that the care provided by family members and friends to their loved ones who are ill, frail or disabled is now worth a staggering £132 billion every year – close to the cost of a second NHS.

Calling all Walkers: We hope that many of you, whether or not you are a Carer, will join us with members of your family and friends or colleagues for a fun walk to raise funds for your local Carers Centre.

Any one can participate in the event to support this worthy cause. By being sponsored by their relatives and friends a worthwhile sum of money can be raised for their Local Carers Centres and organisations. In previous years £65,000 approximately has been raised which has been used for many schemes to support Carers including for a short break for Carers or much needed equipment.

For further information, or to register for the walk: visit our website: www.carersthameswalk.org.uk; or contact: *Colin Shurrock (Chairman): colinshurrock@btinternet.com; Tel: 01179738329

*Peter Tihanyi (Deputy Chairman): ptihanyi@btinternet.com; Tel: 02084449647

*Jenny Massey: jennyafmassey@aol.com

*Baj Mathur MBE: bajmathur@aol.com; Tel: 02088454426

Season Greetings | Save the date: Young Carers Awareness Day 2017 | Video: 12 days of Christmas |

Christmas has arrived, and i know it can be a difficult time for some. Any occasion, whether it be birthdays or festive seasons are never the same once you become a carer. Especially if your loved one has passed, i sincerely send my condolences, my love & thoughts are with you. I know this is the time for family and friends but i really hope you take the time out for yourself.

Cooking your favourite Christmas meal, watching your favourite Christmas movie, a gift for yourself, volunteering or just staying in bed in your fav PJ’s can be rewarding! : O)

Please don’t be too hard on yourself, with everything you went through this year, i commend you for keeping your head up and staying strong. It may not feel like it but trust me you are resilient.

If you do need support over Christmas and New Year, please reach out.

I really hope the remaining month of December and the New Year is filled with peace, love, happiness, growth, fulfilment, good health and major self care! You matter too!! Happy New Year in advance.

I’ll be back just in time for Young Carers Awareness Day; January 26th 2017. Save the date!

See you then,

Antonia 😉


This Morning | The Children of Alcoholics by Joanna Abeyie |

Photo Credit: Passport To Recovery Blog

Photo Credit: Passport To Recovery Blog

According to The National Association for Children of Alcoholics there are 2.6 million children who live with an alcoholic parent.

“You are not alone. Many families keep alcohol problems a secret, so sometimes it can feel like you are the only one. 1 in 5 children in the UK live with a parent who drinks too much. This means other people you know at school, clubs etc. may have similar problems, and may be trying to hide it.” – Nacoa

photo credit: @joanna_abeyie Instagram

photo credit: @joanna_abeyie Instagram

This Morning made history on Monday 5th December, when it became the first programme to film inside an Alcoholic Anonymous meeting.  Journalist and Director of Hyden Talent; Joanna Abeyie, opened up about her father’s addiction to alcohol. Due to Mr Abeyie’s unpredictable behaviour, Joanna expressed that, “Growing up i felt anxious, ashamed and vulnerable.”

Even though she has great relationship with her dad and he gave his blessings with sharing their story. She revealed that her dad was still struggling with alcoholism till this day, and that she has moved out of the family home to block the “negative emotions” and is moving on with her life.


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The segment ‘My Mum..the Alcoholic’, shows Joanna interviewing a 17 year old student “KC”, who cares for his mother with alcohol addiction. He mentioned one day things will be fine and the next day it could be a different story. He told Joanna about the not so good days, he said she would become aggressive, almost zombie like and that she had slammed a door once, which resulted in the handle coming off. KC said he blamed himself at times, suggesting maybe because he wasn’t doing well in school or wasn’t the person she wanted him to be. He later concluded that his mum’s addiction is indeed an illness.

“Alcoholism is the most serious form of problem drinking, and describes a strong, often uncontrollable, desire to drink. Sufferers of alcoholism will often place drinking above all other obligations, including work and family, and may build up a physical tolerance or experience withdrawal symptoms if they stop.” – drink aware.com

Joanna also mentioned that KC would purposely stay behind in school to avoid going home, currently he is studying at a Theatre College and he is doing well with his grades. Joanna was then shown at an anonymous AA meeting where the attendees expressed themselves on alcohol abuse, by saying;

  •  “It’s a killer illness, before it kills you, it sends you mad!”
  • “My marriage fell apart, that was the first thing to go, then my driving license .. maybe because i was a drunk mother.”
  • “We’ve got bank robbers in here, bank managers, bakers, doctors, nurses..all colours, different religions. But we are all the same, we have the same illness.”


Carers who are faced with the challenges of caring for their parent with any substance abuse, sometimes do not seek any advice or support. As NACOA pointed out, it can become a family secret for a long time. Please get the help you need, additionally you can contact your local carers centre , Carers Trust’s Babble or get in touch with Carers UK Adviceline.

Good luck and stay strong!






Young Adult Carer | Emily Hicks named as the Patron’s Award Winner 2016 |








A huge congratulations to Emily Hicks!!! She won the Patron’s Award which was awarded by the HRH The Princess Royal at the Festival of Learning Awards in Birmingham. Emily has been a young carer since the age of 11, she has been the main carer for her mum who has Bipolar. The now 26 year old, who is dyslexic went from getting a few GCSE’s to achieving a degree in Social Care in 2014, at Manchester Metropolitan University. This year she has landed a job as an activity co-ordinator, at the York Carers Centre. Emily was nominated by Carol Taylor, she met Emily in 2010. As mentioned in the video they both said;

“Basically Emily has been absolutely amazing, she is never ever ill humoured. I’m sure life must really get her down. But i’ve never seen her when she’s not full of life and full of beans..and she’s absolutely determined to make the best of her life.” – Carol

“I think Carol nominated me because, i’ve worked alongside her obviously with Government work and she’s been there by my side and seen me be this nervous, young person to now going up, not even phasing me speaking in front of Princess Ann and the MP’s. – Emily


“I am so proud to receive this award and I hope it inspires more people out there to keep striving for something if they really want it, and believe in themselves. I’m not done yet; I want to keep learning and widening my skills and knowledge. Social care is facing a huge problem and I would love to think that I can make a difference to young carers and improve others’ lives.”

Stephen Evans, CEO of Learning & Work Institute, which leads the Festival of Learning Awards said: “Emily’s is a powerful and inspirational story. She demonstrates the power that learning has to transform lives and enable people to reach their potential and achieve their ambitions.
“Emily has combined caring responsibilities with learning, overcoming every challenge she has faced. And she has used her own experience to support and champion the needs of other young adult carers. She is a truly remarkable person and a worthy winner of this special award.”

In my previous post about student carers, it showed the difficulties of being a carer and trying to further your education and/or establish your career. But with and perseverance and patience it can be done. Furthermore having your own health issues and caring for your loved one, can be exhausting and uninspiring. But i believe the love you have for your loved one and your passion for your work goals, can take you where you want to be.

“Even if you feel like you can’t do it, fail if you have to fail and then go back at it. You know, there’s no failing in it. If i can do it, you can do it. – Emily Hicks


Men’s Mental Health- Part 3 | Adam Deacon | BBC’s Victoria Derbyshire Documentary on Bipolar Disorder | Lifelong Struggle |

Picture credit: iamuk.com

Picture credit: iamuk.com








Bafta award winning actor, Adam Deacon who has been in movies like; Kidulthood, Anuvahood, Adulthood, Shank and Montana – discussed his experiences with Bipolar, in the BBC’s ‘Victoria Derbyshire’ programme. The documentary included commentary from Actor, Writer and Comedian; Stephen Fry (who also has Bipolar), Psychologist Carol Chapman, Adele Mahmood (who gives an account on her experiences with Bipolar and Psychosis), Adam’s friend and fellow Actor; Femi Oyeniran (who witnessed a change in Adam’s behaviour before his diagnosis), and Mental Health Nurse; Paul McLOUGHLIN.


If you think you need help, please get the support you need.

Bipolar UK


Rethink Mental Illness | support for young carers 

Young Minds


Movember Foundation


All the best. xo



Shrink Season 1 + Info on Season 2 | Heels Off on Mental Health and Social Media| Laila’s (Fusion of Cultures) on her first panic attack | NHS Go App |

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Season 2 of Shrink is in the works! I talked about the web series last year.. how time flies!! Season 1 is amazing, it really showed the complications of helping people with mental health and dealing with it yourself. Like season 1, the new season will be highlighting a lot of topics that needs to be discussed, where people mostly shy away from.

According to Katrina’s instagram post; “Shrink will be tackling BLM (Black Lives Matter), police brutality, deaths in police custody, and racism in mental health services. Subject matters of violence against women, motherhood vs womanhood, post natal depression, Brexit, PTSD amongst soldiers, depression in the church, young carers, and perimenopause will also be addressed.” These are all vital matters that need to shown on screens and I’m happy it will be addressed in the new season. I am very intrigued to see how the stories of the young carers, will be told. Black Ballad had an interview with the writer, director & producer; Katrina Smith- Jackson. Watch the first episode of season 1 below, and watch the whole series here.


“S01 EP1 | “The Underwear Rule”

Bored with her monotonous routine of work, medication and random one night stands, Natasha (Vanessa Donovan) reignites her toxic relationship with Dr Tim (Mike Waller). Swimsuit model Cherry (Charis Agbonlahor) starts therapy in an attempt to come to terms with her abusive childhood. Also starring Stacey Ghent & Derek Oppong.”


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Heels Off is an online talk show, the presenters of the show are Amina Habeeb, Ashley Watt, Rita Balogun, Oloni and Mercedes Benson. The guest on their show was Psychotherapist, Deborah Adewole.

In this episode they talked about mental health and social media.  Deborah gave some tips on what signs to look out for if you’re worried about a loved one, how to help someone one with mental illness and people feeling left out or anxious without social media.

Social media can be a distraction at times in a good way but sometimes it may not be. From comparing yourself with other people on Instagram or an unwarranted/ negative comment about your tweet/picture; this can begin to affect your mindset and more so if you already have a mental health condition. I think being cautious on who you follow and taking breaks once a while can be beneficial. Forget the likes and the amount of followers you may lose, loosing control of your mental health is far more important.



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The lovely Laila from her well known Youtube Channel, Fusion of Cultures uploaded a video about NHS GO app.

Laila also talked about people she followed on social media, that committed suicide.”I remember, maybe it was a couple of years ago quite a few, you know it could have been 3 people that i follow on social [media] , like 2 of them where on Tumblr and one of them was on Youtube. And these where young, black people that had committed suicide, and i believe this was around a 2 year period or like maybe in the same year. And it completely took me by surprise. Because of course, behind the camera, behind the photos, behind the Tumblr. You don’t necessarily know what someone is going through, and not everyone vocally speaks on how they feel.”

This takes me back to a post i done last year, about mental health in the black community, it’s called the “Ghanian State of Mind” Documentary.



In this video Laila talks in-depth about her experiences with stress, anxiety and her first panic attack.


The NHS Go App is free, it’s targeted towards young people, which gives you information on health and wellbeing on the go. This will be of good use for carers, as caring for self is usually not done. Caring can affect your mental health and cause or intensify a medical condition. Self care is important and i know it’s hard to fit it in at times, with your caring duties. However you can try and make a conscience decision whether it is early in the morning before your loved one wakes up or when it’s at night and your loved one is fast asleep. Do something for you, it may be as fun as seeing friends or going to a particular place. But listening to a couple of songs, prayer, meditation, reading a chapter of book or journaling can get your mind off things for a moment.

You cannot cheat nature, thinking of doing something for yourself, may sound like a chore. Sleep is very important, but sometimes you may need a bit of help to fall asleep.  If sleeping is becoming a constant issue, check the app for suggestions, and if you’re still concerned please visit your GP and contact your local carer’s centre for respite.



Carers UK 0808 808 7777

Carers Trust: Email: support@carers.org or find your local carers centre 

Mind 0300 123 3393
Text: 86463

Rethink Mental Illness 0300 5000 927

Highgate counselling centre: 0208 883 5427

Support line: 01708 765 200

CALM (campaign against living miserably): 0800 585 858

HOPElineUK: 0800 068 4141 or email: pat@papyrus-uk.org

Samaritans: 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org.uk

Lifeline: 0808 808 2121

You can also contact Deborah personally on the following email address if you’d like to talk to someone privately: psychotherapywithdebbie@gmail.com 

UCAS to acknowledge student carers | Jane Bayliss | Lizzie Loves | Faye Wong |


A 21 year old student carer, Carol Hayward, started a campaign for UCAS to bring change to their form; a tick box which will allow young adult carers to identify themselves. This has been a campaign starting back from 2014, by Carers Trust who also supported the UCAS campaign and they received 2,500 signatures.

Gail Scott-Spicer, CEO of Carers Trust, said:

“This campaign has been for a small change, but one that will make a huge difference to the lives of student carers across the UK, as long as universities across the country now commit to using the information they will be given in order to provide the support that student carers need and deserve.”

Carol, added:

“I know from first-hand experience how difficult it is being a student but also a carer. I am really thrilled today to have learnt that UCAS will be improving their form for carers at the earliest possible date.”

Carers Trust research has recently highlighted the facts about student carers in the UK, which include that:

  1. Half of young adult carers in college or university are struggling because of their caring role.
  2. Young adult carers are four times more likely to have dropped out of college or universities than students without caring roles.
  3. 14% of young carers in school said they would not go to college or university because of their caring role.
  4. 24% of young adult carers in school said they could not afford to go to college or university, while 41% are unsure. -Carer.org

Thankfully, UCAS has now confirmed that in 2018, carers will be able to disclose if they are a carer!

There are approximately 375,000 young adult carers (aged 14-25) in the UK, all facing different challenges and responsibilities. If you are under the age of 19 and provide regular care and support to a family member, you may be eligible to access additional support while studying.

Universities and colleges have initiatives or support programmes in place to help those who need it, but it’s really important to first identify yourself as a carer. If your chosen university or college doesn’t know about your caring responsibilities, they won’t be able to put the necessary support in place. If you’re not sure where to start, have a chat with their student support team, who will be able to point you in the right direction and provide the support you need.

As part of your uni application, you’ll need to write a personal statement. UCAS spokesperson James Durant has this advice:

“Your background as a carer will have given you skills and experiences that can set you apart from other candidates. Writing about your personal journey, and linking it to the subject you want to study will strengthen your application and make it stand out.”

Click here, for more information about being a student carers, personal statements, student with disabilities and care leavers.

There are so many students who care for a loved one and have achieved getting their degrees. Some  students have transitioned from being a young carer or may have become a young adult carer before or while at University.


Picture credit: @Jane_Bayliss21

Jane Bayliss is a young carer who cares for 3 members of her family. Her parents and her older sister. She has a First class degree in Psychology (BSc) and she even received a Kevin Buchanan Award, (only one is given out), for resilience in achieving her degree with her caring duties; (as seen in the picture on the left).  She’s now completing her MSc in Psychology.

Like many hidden army of young carers, Jane was caring for a while and initially did not realise she was young carer. She was not recognised until a later stage. [Watch Professor Saul Becker TEDx’s talk, on hidden young carers.]

Jane and I talk from time to time and it never ceases to amaze me how strong she is. The stress of being the one, holding the family together on a daily basis can be exhausting. But taking each day as it comes and receiving support, seems to be the only way to cope.

“Being a student young carer also brings it’s challenges as although I really enjoy uni, and it’s my only time “off” (but still on call!) it can also be pretty stressful. As juggling home with deadlines is never easy, and home obviously always comes first, so I just have to squeeze uni work in any rare spare 5mins, usually at stupid o’clock, or first thing in the morning.  I get up extra early before everyone else to get sorted for the day ahead, as the time is just non-existent.

However I definitely couldn’t have got through uni, let alone achieve a first class degree (inner perfectionist kicked in there!) and now onto my masters without the support, of my amazing uni teachers Rachel Evenden and Roz Collings, who have been there, and continue to be. They’re not only academically support me but also personally too, and without them and the support from Young Carers, I definitely wouldn’t be able to keep going!

But despite what can sometimes feel like never ending tough times, they are my family and I wouldn’t change them for the world and I’m proud to be able to help. Being a young carer has played a massive role in making me who I am today, and I’m definitely more resilient for it – as it’s true in the long-term, whatever life throws at you makes you stronger in the long run.”

– Jane Bayliss



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Elizabeth ‘Lizzie Loves‘ Jemiyo is a content creator/vlogger. She recently graduated from London School of Economics and Political Science, with a BSc in Sociology.

She posted a vlog about her graduation day where she spoke about her time at University; meeting new people from different backgrounds, being a young black woman and the need of continuos support between black women and her mum’s mental health illness.

“Biggest thing for me during this period of my life was, watching my mum become very mentally ill and learning how to love her again, even though i had so much hate in my heart.  Because i didn’t understand it and she didn’t understand it. Anyone who has dealt with mental illness, you’ll understand how difficult it can be on the family, the financial burden and having to pay for your mortgage. It felt like i had to do everything on my own, even though i knew i wasn’t alone, i felt alone at times. But there needs to be a struggle for you to find peace, hills to climb obviously for you to get to the top and i think along the way it taught me that, you know embrace those hills and understand that things will definitely change.” Elizabeth Jemiyo


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I reposted Faye Wong‘s Instagram picture a while back, as she posted a picture in her graduation gown and i was moved with her caption about her experiences of being a young carer. She also graduated from LSE.

“This is for my beautiful mum. It is not often that I openly or publicly talk about her. However, now is the right time to reflect back on memories and how it relates to my life at present.

She did not receive an education in Hong Kong but she had always recognised the importance of having one. She had always said that a “thief might steal all of your material belongings but they would never steal the knowledge you have acquired”. Knowledge and having intellectual agility is crucial to having self respect because it is something mostly gained through hard work. Ultimately, she stressed the importance of being independent and self reliant. Her move to the UK was, in part, to give her family a better life. It is with these principles that I have carried with me in my life.

My words do not do any justice about my feelings concerning my mum and lung cancer. At 14, she said she wouldn’t be able to make my graduation day and this upset her. This was the very day in which she was diagnosed with cancer.

However, I guess she knew that I would make it to university and pass. Today, I proved her right after being her young carer for three years just before starting my UG degree at LSE. I know that she had faith in me and this is held in my heart. This won’t ever be taken away. I will always remember you because you made me who I am today.” – Faye Wong

In a Guardian article titled, ‘Alone and unsupported: why student carers need more help’ featured 3 carers (Becky Hammerton, Page Steers and Christopher John Nation) who spoke about being student carers and the challenges that comes with it.

A huge congratulations to all the student carers that have graduated this year. If you were not able to this year, please get as much information and support you’ll need when you go back.

If you feel this is not the right time to complete your degree or you’re about to start college or university. For advice get in touch with your local carers centre, local authority or with Carers UK, adviceline on 0808 808 7777 (Monday- Friday : 10am – 4pm). The number is free from your landlines and most major mobile networks. Additionally you can call the same number on Mondays and Tuesdays for listening support, from 9am – 7pm. This is where you are given the freedom to express your feelings about your experiences with caring.

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Henley Festival 2016


Instrumental Scribble

It’s July, it’s England and the festival season has started so of course it’s raining. But in usual British fashion we don’t let that stop us, particularly when there’s a festival.

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Buckwheat banana pancakes


Cook. Eat. Glow.

I created this little recipe back in 2008 when, to my absolute joy, one of the healthy online shops began selling buckwheat flour. Naturally, I ordered some on the spot and got cooking. This has always been one of my ultimate comfort food breakfasts and I hope you like it, too.

Makes 4 pancakes


1 large egg (70g), beaten

1 ripe banana (95g), mashed

50ml goats or buffalo milk (or any other milk of your choice, just make sure it’s organic and free from sugar and additives)

40g buckwheat flour

1/4 tsp baking powder

5g raw honey (linder / lime honey is my absolute favourite) or agave nectar or organic maple syrup

1/4 tsp ground cinnamon

Ghee or coconut oil for frying

Mix the egg and banana, add cinnamon and baking powder, followed by milk, honey and flour. Ideally, use a blender to achieve a lump-free batter.

Heat a little…

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13 Year old Young Carer surprised at school | Amy Barbour | This Morning (Video) |

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As a part of a special, for Young Carers Awareness Day in January, on This Morning with Phillip and Holly they surprised 13 year old Amy Barbour. She cares for three members of her family. Her mother who has two brain aneurysms and a serious neurological condition, older brother who has diabetes and bipolar disorder and her younger sister who may be autistic.  Reporter Michael Underwood went to her school to surprise her with some gifts, watch the video to see what she got and her reaction.


Men’s Mental Health Part 2| Professor Green ‘Suicide and Me’ | June Sarpong on Brother Sam Sarpong |

In my last post i touched on relationships involving men with mental illnesses, which can be challenging but sustainable or others left the relationship when it became toxic. Unfortunately some have a heavier scenario to come to terms with, suicide. According to CALM “In 2014, male suicide accounts for 76% of all suicides and is the single biggest cause of death in men under 45 in the UK”.

Professor Green (Stephen Manderson) who is a U.K Rapper, he opened up about his discovery about his father’s suicide in a documentary called Suicide and Me. Prof. Green had not spoken to his family about his dad’s death and now he needs some closure. The documentary opens up with him talking about how fortunate he is with his music career and his home life; with wife Millie Mackintosh and their dog Arthur. The documentary is definitely an eye opener, as it shares the  emotional roller coaster of dealing with his father’s death.

“But there was one black day when i was 24, i’ll never be able to forget. I was still in bed and my Nan came in crying. A horrible feeling came over me and i knew something was really wrong. And she just blurted out, “your dad’s dead, he hung himself”. That anger that came over me,  straight away.. i just punched the wall, i was just livid. The next thing was, upset and it was the confusion, i couldn’t understand it, how could he have done this? What’s he done it for? What was so bad that he had to take his own life.” – Professor Green


Sam Sarpong was a Model, TV Presenter and Actor, he committed suicide last year. After seven hours of police officers trying to talk him down. Unfortunately it did not prevent the 40 year old from leaping off a bridge in Pasadena, Los Angeles. TV Presenter June Sarpong, the older sister to Sam, spoke about the incident on Loose Women.

Have you lost someone to suicide or contemplating it yourself? Please click on any of the links below for help. Sending my prayers and love to you. xxx

Maytree Respite Centre

Samaritans; National Suicide Prevention Alliance (NSPA)

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide



Carers UK

Carers Trust










Finding and staying in work – not an easy job


Finding a job is not easy for anyone. Once you’ve had a think about what you would like to do, completed various online personality tests on what job would suit you best and asked everyone you know what they think, you get to the task of actually searching for work. Then you have to decide where’s best to look – online, in newspapers, through friends and family, maybe contact a recruitment agency?

Amidst all of this you must start writing a CV, covering letters and completing application forms – and of course, all jobs are different and expect different things during the application process.

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